There was
always a little booze
to get the
tongue loose,
and sex
to bridge
the bodily gap.
But once all
the highballs
were emptied,
and they
cracked the night
with a
breath of sunlight,
bare skin
prickled
against the
the hollow-boned touch
of dying
whispers
too hoarse
to rise above
what they
never said.
© 2013
Jennifer Wagner
“Partners in
a relationship can begin to lose their romantic and sexual passion for each
other when they begin showing less and less of their true feelings to each
other. This lack of ongoing "into-me-see" can occur because of fear
of how the other person will react, lingering resentment, or simply emotional
laziness. Much like tending a garden, ongoing
intimacy requires persistent effort, but in both cases the
fruit that blooms as a result of such loving dedication is well worth the
effort. It is quite possible for two people in a relationship to continue to
grow as individuals who are capable of revealing ever-deeper aspects of
themselves to their partner. In this way there are
always new qualities of a person to be known and loved, which is the best
insurance for maintaining sexual passion no matter how long the
couple has been together.
The quality
of your life is enhanced immeasurably by developing and maintaining
relationships with people who you allow deeply into your heart, mind and soul. Remember that secrets and emotional isolation
are the enemies of intimacy. The ability to be intimate with
another person is like a muscle that becomes weak when it is under-exercised.
Use it or lose it!” –Bill Herring LCSW, CSAT
"The opposite of loneliness, it's not togetherness. It
is intimacy." -Richard Bach
